We've reached a pretty big milestone. From the day they were born Suzie and Ian have been swaddled and by each others side most of their sleeping hours...
up until now!
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| So they don't get cold without the extra layer of the swaddle we now have them in fleece footed pajamas. These are their My First Christmas ones, aren't they so stinkin' cute in them?! |
At their 2 month visit with the pediatrician we were instructed to forgo the swaddles, not just some of the time, but ALL of the time. I think I asked the doctor if he was serious 3 or 4 times. To help promote gross motor development he said they were old enough and big enough to put an end to the swaddling blankets we have come to love so much. I highly doubt any of us would have gotten as much sleep as we did in the early weeks without the blessed
miracle blanket. Occasionally we used the Halo sleep sacks with swaddle, but the miracle blanket was where it was at with special flaps that went around their arms and under their backs to keep their arms securely at their sides. So when Dr. Hirsch asked me if they were starting to get their legs and arms out of them I knew we were headed in a direction I wasn't ready to go. I answered yes and he informed me it would be worth it to allow them to learn how to sleep on their own without them. I parted ways with the beloved swaddles and packed them away for next time and only shed a tear or two.
We are also now following a new sleep routine. We had been keeping them up about an hour from the start of their feeding time to play then laying them down to sleep. If cries started we did the graduated extinction method found in
Healthy Sleep Habits where we would go in and comfort them after 5 minutes, if it started again then wait 10 minutes, then 15 minutes. It was an adjustment for all of us and by no means did any of us perfect it. I will say having an exact time to know when I'd go into the nursery to soothe my crying baby(babies) helped A LOT! I'm so glad we had started that the 6 week mark because from their 2 month appt. until now we've upped the ante quite a bit.
Now we try to keep them awake for 1.5-2 hours from the time a feeding starts by playing, reading books, listening and dancing to music, etc. Then while they are still awake and not drowsy yet we move them to their awesome
bassinets my SIL gave us. Then when the inevitable crying begins we wait...15 minutes! Yes, a whole 15 minutes right off the bat. I about fell off my chair with the doctor said this. Then go in comfort them, put them back down and leave. Repeat this up to
three times (with comforting time in between each cycle this adds up to almost 1 hour!) if crying doesn't stop. If they don't self soothe within the three 15 minute blocks then we go in and put them in the bouncer or swing so they can sleep. Sometimes both or one of them will cry so long it ends up being their next feeding time. I will say when this happens they usually go to sleep fairly easily the next go-around.
Dr. Hirsch warned us that everyone would think this was crazy, especially our parents and grandparents who would say they never did that with us and we turned out fine, but it would be well worth investing the time to sleep train now so putting them down for naps later is easier. And so far, we're still working on it. Usually once a day each of them will fall asleep during their awake time in the swing or bouncer and I just leave them. I don't stick to the proposed sleep training routine to a T, but for the most part we're trying to implement it as best we can. And for all the we's I've been using I mostly mean me. Dave is super helpful in the evenings once he is home from work, but really they are pretty awesome sleepers at night and usually go right to sleep without a fuss. I've been at it for 2 1/2 weeks now and I can already tell you with two babies sleep training success is critical to our survival. Here's to hoping Dr. Hirsch is right ! Only time will tell...